It has been quite a journey
My hair was stick straight until puberty hit at the age of 13 and then it all changed. Now, my curls are a big part of my image, who I am and what I’m known for. I always wore my curly hair in a bun during my teenage years and silicones were my best friend, my holy grail.
I saturated my hair with products back then so good hair days only happened on day one. Healthy hair wasn’t a thing for me, I bleached my curls and deep conditioning never existed in my routine.
A few years later I became interested in the health of my hair so I started to avoid sulphates. I fell in love with a curly hair brand where the shampoo was sulphate free, but the conditioner and stylers were full of silicones. This resulted in massive product build up. My curl pattern changed, they were weighed down and more straight.
I have been seriously ill for a period of 10 years. My body was unhealthy, exhausted and due hormonal imbalance and I lost my menstrual period. During that time I lost 40% of my hair. My illness, the hormonal imbalance, the product build up and bleaching my hair really did a number on my curl pattern. Two years ago I started to recover. As my body started to be healthy, my hair was growing back. It was the biggest gift in life and I really wanted to embrace that. This was the point to start my healthy hair journey. I came across the girly girl method and I stopped using silicones, started deep conditioning and natural ingredients became my best friend. After a few weeks I had already noticed a difference in my curl pattern, my curls became more tight.
When I’m interested in something I can become a little obsessive. I became really interested in the health of my curls. I absorbed a lot of knowledge about healthy hair and curls and admired curly hair bloggers and loved their tips and product recommendations. In my healthy hair journey I have found educating myself about my hair to be the best thing I could have done to get my curls where they are now. Most of the woman I admire are afro american and their curl type is very different to mine. I love Frogirlginny and sunkissedalba but I never found a blogger or instagrammer with the same curl texture, I really missed a curl-twin so that’s why I decided to start my own Instagram page @curlsandblondies, to share my knowledge and my experience with my hair. I cannot tell you what this has given me since. It has helped me to embrace myself, it has made me grow.
♡ On Sundays, some people stay in bed, some go to a brunch with friends or watch their favourite series. Most sundays I try to have some quality time with my loveones. But when I'm not going out and stay at home, sunday is my favourite day to deep condition. It's the day I have the most time to give my curls the love they need. What I do really depends on what my hair needs. ❥Once a month a do a hot oil treatment. My hair is fine so I only use 1 to 2 tablesoons oil because my hair tends to get weighed down. I love a mix of coconut oil, jojoba oil, blackseed oil and Jamaican black castor oil. I only use a small amount of the jbco because it's a thick and heavy oil. ❥Every other 4 weeks I do an @aphogee 2 step protein treatment. For step two i always use my favourite moisturizing conditioner because the origional one contain sillicones:( I get a lot of questions About how to apply the protein treatment. I really recommend to watch some tutorials on YouTube before using. Because this treatment is quite heavy a right application method is a must. ❥Most of you know I love natural ingredients and I believe a good deep treatment doesn't have to be fancy or expensive. That's Why I love doing homemade deep treatments. Just have a look in your kitchen, there is propably something to use that your hair will love. Avocado, banana, honey, yoghurt or eggs, they all contain great nutrients for your hair. ❥When I'm too busy for a time consuming deep treatment, I use one my favourite deep conditioners that I have in my cabinet. I love @sheamoisture4u JBCO mask, @frizzfreecurls blueberry bliss reparative hair mask or @mydevacurl heaven in hair. ________________________________________ What are you doing on sundays?
I noticed such a difference in the health of my curls since I started taking care of them but it lacked volume, and I still had some straight and stringy ends. Three months ago I had my first devacut. I couldn’t imagine that a good haircut could make such a difference. My stylist gave my hair a wonderful shape and got rid of all my split ends. She really helped me to appreciate my healthy curls with the perfect haircut. I didn’t have to put my hair in a bun anymore. The volume was amazing and my curls popped again. So happy curls!
I’m not going to lie, I still give myself some highlights once in a while. But I found out that it is possible to have blonde colored healthy curls. When you dye your hair it really needs extra care. So I deep condition twice a week, do hot oil treatments and make sure to strengthen my hair with protein treatments. I only color my roots and always use olaplex, to minimise the damage. After coloring I pay extra attention to the colored areas. This way I can keep my colored hair as healthy as possible.
Healthy inside and out
Of course it’s important to care for our hair from the outside but I know that a overall health plays a significant part in the health of hair as well. Deep treatments and protein treatments, no matter how strong, cannot fix hair breakage caused by a nutrient deficiency, hormonal imbalance or other illness. When we are not healthy on the inside we cannot expect our hair to be healthy. I’ve experienced that for a long time during my illness. So I try to eat a healthy balanced diet, drink plenty of water and have a happy mind.
It has been two years since I started my healthy hair journey. Back then I couldn’t imagine that my hair was going to change so drastically. I took me over 20 bottles of conditioner, 200 deep conditions, 24 protein treatments and a lot of love for my curls. But it was all worth it. It has been a rough journey, with a lot of trial and error. There were a lot of moments when I felt like giving up, but when I looked at all the inspiring natural women, it encouraged me to keep going on this journey. There were times that I got obsessed with my curls, checking them every hour, desperate to find products that worked for me. I started to realise that I can’t fight my hair so I learned to embrace it the way it is. And I can tell, life is a lot easier when you just let it fro.
Always remember you’re not the only one on this journey, so if you feel lost, you can always ask for directions…