British Curlies - All About Naturally Beautiful Curls
I have heard all the excuses as to why Mamas decide to relax their daughter's hair. "I just don't have the time; her hair is too thick; a relaxer will make it easier to comb; I want her hair to be longer; I'm just going to use a kiddie relaxer. Well Mamas, I 'm just going to keep it real. Think of the long-term repercussion’s that your child can endure. As they grow older they may suffer with major hair issues, and may not feel they have the option of expressing themselves completely.
Before you say, "Her hair is too thick," think about what your Mama most likely did to your hair. She plaited it or braided it; she would never opt for extensions. Your daughter’s hair should not be complex let her be a kid. Keep your daughter’s hair healthy by shampooing her hair with a low pH, low suds shampoo. Condition your daughter's hair to keep it tangle free and soft, apply a light moisturizer and either blow dry or plait the hair while it is wet,then allow the hair to dry overnight. Apply a scarf to your daughter’s hair at night to prevent major hair issues in the morning. Before you say, "l can't comb this stuff,"take a look at the tools you are using. No one was ever able to effectively remove a flat head nail with a Phillips screw driver.If your daughter's hair is thick use a wide toothed comb. Always purchase a good rubber comb that does not scratch the head. Run the comb over your arm; if it scratches your arm, it will scratch your daughter's head. Keep an eye on the comb's teeth. lf the teeth are sharp and broken throw it out. Head scratches and scalp abrasions can cause inflammation, which can sometimes lead to minor hair breakage at the scalp.
Mamas, before you say "I just wish my daughter’s hair would grow," and think that a relaxer will generate growth think again. A relaxer is more work than natural hair will ever be, and relaxed hair does not grow faster. Hair only grows between 1/4 to 1/2 inch per month. Well, you are probably saying, "What makes hair grow?" I wish I could answer this, but no one can answer this question with complete certainty. What l do know is that it takes a lot to stop hair growing.
There are no secret miracles. The only truth that I have ever known for healthy hair to grow is to keep ends trimmed and of course keep it clean and conditioned. Stop fretting over hair length and you will be surprised how fast it will grow, with little or no effort. Habitually saying to your child that their hair is a burden or you wish it were longer or straight only gives them the mindset that natural hair is not beautiful. Simply not true.
Mama's before you say, "l will just use a Kiddie relaxer" let me be the first to tell you that chemically there is no such thing. All relaxers, silkeners and texturizers contain two common ingredients: calcium hydroxide, also known as the "no lye" relaxer, or sodium hydroxide which is the" lye relaxer ".
They come in either mild, regular or super strength. A no lye (calcium hydroxide) relaxer is generally purchased in a drug store or supermarket. Sodium hydroxide (lye)relaxers are often sold to professional stylists, though they are available to the general public and improper continued usage of either type of relaxer can cause breakage, major thinning serious damage to the hair shaft, and sometimes the scalp. Contrary to popular belief, neither is better than the other. Mama's, all I am saying is that I have seen the damage that relaxers can cause, and feel that no Mama should ever opt to use chemicals on their baby's hair. As an owner of a natural hair salon I have seen many people young and old who are interested in natural styles but are fearful of what their natural hair will look like, simply because they have had a relaxer for as long as they can remember. lf a chemical service is used, it should be on an adult who is aware of the consequences not for a parent who is trying to make his or her life easier by making this potentially costly decision for their child.
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