So summers out and this year my hair had a huge wake up call! Last summer I so wasn’t CG! straightening x3 a day (no heat protective, clip-in extensions I slept on, brushing etc… My hair naturally is incredibly coarse holds little and no moisture so my hair was a mess, however that changed in Feb of this year…
Iv always been subject to bullying in school (kids are cruel) what is deemed as “different” is a cause for victimization i.e “socially-acceptable” and that’s when I tried to fit in and if that was abusing my hair then that’s what I did, I still hear the torments now as I’m seeing my natural hair come through
Ok so the bullying happened yesterday! I washed my hair and styled and let it do its own thing wild and free, i felt i looked dam good too looking in the mirror! I was in the spar and a few elders came to me and was complimenting me on my curls and natural volume of my hair (feel-good factor) However as Im waiting in the que a few mid 20’s early 30’s women in a group (cats play nasty together don’t they?) started making snide gestures and not at all refined either… “Every heard of GHD’s?” “Maybe she got electrocuted” “Don’t be nasty, she cant help having bad hair” *cackling away* My throat felt tight, these women weren’t young girls, and what did i do to deserve it! There was a time I would of scraped my hair back that instance and be ashamed (I hardly ever, ever stand up for myself ever!) however something clicked… I shook out my hair, turned round and said
“Your cruel words aren’t representing me, they representing yourselves, it’s took me 20 years to accept who I am and my hair, if you accepted yourselves you wouldn’t feel the need to be bullies, maybe you can’t accept yourselves cos what you are is nasty and I pity you all”
I felt relieved and humble at the same time if very nervous, a young lad (kinda chavy) at the checkout said to me “I think your hair is awesome and good on ya love, least your not fake” (feel-good factor)
So two feel good factors and one bad factor in a space of ten minutes! And for once I felt so bloody proud and stronger than ever!
I guess high-school still carries on even with adults older than me, but i think this needed to happen for me to love my hair and be proud, bring on today another natural hair down day!