Teach your children to love their natural curls with positivity, the right techniques, and nourishing products. This life lesson to love and accept their curls will not only shine through their appearance but also within themselves.
The biggest impact you can have is always talking about your child’s curls positively. If you’re running late on a morning and the thought of refreshing and detangling your child’s curls is a dread, don’t vocalise it! If you complain about having to upkeep the hair, your child will associate negative feelings towards their curls. They will get the impression that their hair is a burden rather than a gift.
When others notice their curls, try not to use words like ‘different’ (especially if you have straight hair). These terms could make them feel like they are the odd one out and it’s their hair that makes them odd. Don’t compare their curls to other children’s hair, their hair may not be like their peers or siblings (because they are lucky to have curls!) Compliment them on their hair, and always tell them how nice their curls look.
Always have fun while treating your child’s hair. If it takes a while to detangle and condition, make the time fun by singing songs/playing games or even putting on their favourite film. Say things like, ‘Wow, I wish I had hair like this,’ so your child knows that their hair is desirable.
To make detangling less stressful, be sure to maintain it. Always use a leave-in and take your time with sectioning and detangling the knots. If detangled and conditioned well, the hair will love you for it and the difference will be extremely noticeable. The photo below, taken from the Trepadora Salon Instagram page is an eleven-year-old. You can see the difference between fully conditioned and detangled curls. Leave-in conditioner is your best friend! Don’t forget to pineapple their hair at night and NEVER comb their curls dry.
(Photo below was detangled with Trepadora Babassu Quench Curl Primer)
Surround them with curly icons
In a world where most pop stars and Disney princesses have straight, glossy, sleek hair, your child’s view on their own curls could turn negative without the role models, especially if the parent’s hair is naturally straight. Here is a list of curl icons that won’t make your child feel different.
Gratuity- Pixar’s Home
Merida- Disney’s Brave
Hermione- Harry Potter